Most things in life are worth going after.
That relationship. That business opportunity. That promotion. New friendships. Solo travel!
It's often said that we should go after what we desire (within reason, of course!), even if there’s a possibility of it failing.
Once, our pastor dared us to dream so big that it would fail if God wasn’t a part of it.
I’ve heard others say “if your dreams don’t scare you, then they aren’t big enough.”
Yes. We should dream big. Go big or go home. That’s understood, right? But what happens when you go for that dream and you do take that leap of faith? Let’s say you start sailing through the sky. You have the wind beneath your wings and you’re soaring to new heights.
Then. All of a sudden, you’ve landed. You’re flat on your face wondering how you got down there so quickly, picking yourself up and wiping the dirt and tears off of your face while looking down at your scraped knees.
What then?
Why doesn’t anyone ever talk about the ugly side of failing? Because, let me tell you. Yes, it is ugly. You constantly wonder to yourself about what went wrong. Did you not pray hard enough? Did you have too much doubt in yourself in the beginning? Maybe you told too many people your plans, instead of keeping it to yourself? Were you too confident in the beginning and missed all the warning signs? All of these what-if’s that are constantly going on in your head, so much so that it gets you stressed, and almost to the verge of overwhelm.
But don’t forget to take note of the small things in life. The little life lessons that get you through these moments. Some call them life lessons. Some call them teachable moments.
I call it failing to win. Because whatever you fail at should be your lesson to yourself in how you’re going to achieve that goal the next time. How you’re going to crush it, knowing that you’ve made mistakes that you are not going to let happen again. Because next time, you’re going to win.
I’m not ashamed at the failures that I’ve made in life. I’m grateful for these life lessons because it's gotten me to where I am now. I’m not going to be great at everything that I attempt. But the beauty in life is that we try because we learn so much about ourselves when we fail. Yes, failure is hard. But it wasn’t supposed to be easy. What’s even harder is living a life where failure is the norm, and never learning from the failures.
We weren't put in these situations only to remain with that sense of failure. That wouldn’t be the point though of the lesson.
We fail because we are learning or trying something new and it’s normal to get it wrong a few times before we get it right.
God is trying to show us how to do something in another way. He’s doing this to shape our character. He’s building up our skillset by giving us experience. If we win at everything, then we just assume that we’re just naturally good at it and we’ll never have to learn exactly HOW we did it.
We can never reproduce the results because we didn’t pay attention to what was done or the steps we took to do it. In that case, we can’t be a lesson to others.
The important part about failing and then succeeding is showing others how they can succeed too. Being able to teach others is the key to sharing our gifts with others. We need to be able to teach others how to achieve success, but we must also be coachable ourselves. We can’t run back to the Creator every time we don’t understand the lesson and continue to ask how it’s done. He’ll always be there for us, yes, but he wants us to learn how to do it for ourselves. That’s where we need to show confidence and trust in Him. We can do this by trusting in His Word.
If we fail at something, God puts us in a position to stop and reflect, and then understand how we can win the next time. He’s shaping and molding us. Preparing us for battles that we won’t even see coming. But with the lessons that we learn along the way (that only failure can teach us), we use those same skills to succeed when something new comes our way.
As you leave behind 2021 and enter into 2022, don't take those failed experiences or opportunities as your last attempt, but rather keep going, see it from another perspective, and use that fail to learn to achieve your goals.
This is the success of failure.
Love Always,
Momma Naturalista
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